I know I’m pretty much talking to an empty room right now, but I shut down my facebook and feel like putting some thoughts out to the interwebs.
I caught this link on Feministing regarding Cynthia Nixon and gayness:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/01/23/cynthia-nixon-wit-being-gay_n_1223889.html
thought (a) I didn’t know “Miranda” had come out! She was my favorite! Awesome!
thought (b) I find it fascinating that her saying that her gayness is a choice is controversial! Honestly, I believe, given the overpopulation of the world and constant complications from trying not to breed… homosexuality is the wave of the future. As an option, I personally don’t understand why it isn’t held up as the standard, responsible sexual role. But I am also fairly lesbianic and have my own agenda šĀ “Natural inclinations” aside, I would like to point out this debate here between “Born Gay” and “Chose To Be Gay” The first one has become popular and camped out thanks to Lady Gaga and seems to be the base argument when dealing with the religious wing-nuts. The second one is somewhat less popular in the gay rights movement, however I think it leaves WAY more room for “recruiting”… it is more respectful of sexuality as a fluid, multi-directional spectrum that changes with the tides of your life INSTEAD of a label you’re stamped with at birth. Cynthia Nixon’s got some ovaries:
Ā Ā Ā I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line āIāve been straight and Iāve been gay, and gay is better.ā And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people itās not, but for me itās a choice, and you donāt get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if itās a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesnāt matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not…
Why canāt it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems weāre just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I donāt think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didnāt realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men Iāve been out with.